Friday, February 7, 2014

Effective Communication Requires a Fertile Mindset

Systemically, educational consultants provide a great resource toward achieving the mission of learning for all.  Optimally, the educational consultant is an effective communicator promoting empowerment and collaboration.  However, a key to being an optimal resource is effective utilization of communication skills. 

While key communication skills include listening skills, feedback skills, and presentation skills, it is essential to recognize the role of one’s mindset in the communication process.  One’s mindset is the greatest influence upon whether communication skills will be optimized.  Based on one’s mindset, communication efforts become either “effective” or “ineffective.” 

If one approaches any relationship with the mindset of willingly advancing collaboration and empowerment, the subsequent communication can elevate the tenets of peace, joy, and love.  By contrast, whenever someone approaches any relationship with the mindset of control, the subsequent communication typically escalates fear, anxiety, and frustration.  Therefore, it becomes essential to calibrate one’s mindset to effectively utilize communication skills that promote optimal learning. 

When learning a new way of thinking, better results occur when acting our way into right thinking rather than merely trying to think ourselves into right action.  Yet, when learning to truly embrace and promote empowered collaborations, it is helpful to reflect upon which mindset will be utilized prior to engagement.  With practice, a mindset elevating the tenets of peace, joy, and love become evident in ALL your relationships. 

Currently, do you seek to advance collaboration and empowerment through communication that elevates the tenets of peace, joy, and love in ALL relationships?  Or, do you rely upon the desire to retain control?  In the latter, you may not yet realize you are thereby establishing communication that escalates fear, anxiety, and frustration!  Therefore, when honest self-awareness fails, another question is, are the people in your life happy, joyous, and free from their relationship with you or do far too many exhibit misery, irritability, or discontentment from their interactions with you? 

To summarize, before we can esteem to being effective consultants, we need to want to willingly empower and collaborate with others.  Prior to willingly empowering and collaborating, we need effective communication.  A prerequisite to effective communication is a mindset seeking to invite others to positively grow through the relationship.  Such invitations require communication grounded in peace, joy, and love.  Given this, does it matter whether the relationship is with a colleague, family member, significant other, parent, child, or student?  

Once our mindset is right, we can use learned communication skills to better effect.  A mindset seeking to elevate the tenets of peace, joy, and love, provides a fertile place for subsequent growth.  Perhaps the following parable now has more meaning:

"A farmer went out to sow his seed.  As he was scattering the seed, some fell along the path, and the birds came and ate it up.  Some fell on rocky places, where it did not have much soil. It sprang up quickly, because the soil was shallow.  But when the sun came up, the plants were scorched, and they withered because they had no root.  Other seed fell among thorns, which grew up and choked the plants.  Still other seed fell on good soil, where it produced a crop…” (NIV, Matthew, 13: 4-8). 

To Cite:

Anderson, C.J. (February 7, 2014) Effective communication requires a fertile mindset [Web log post]